There is a steep learning curve to be traversed once you become a Care Partner.  One of the key lessons t is never ask a question that is concerned with the memory of your loved one.  So phrases like : ‘do you remember?’ are a distinct no no.

Unfortunately during our little break in Nottingham the phrase ‘do you remember?’ often infected conversation .  That was inevitable with family members getting together to share their past.  On occasions, as we visited old haunts, her brother frequently posed the question.   I decided not to intervene as I heard Maureen convince herself that things had changed, and that is why she couldn’t remember.

You can be sure I will never play Do You Remember by the Scaffold even if it was amongst our vinyl!