It may sound obvious but when your memory is poor familiarity is vital.  We have our regular carer back now and the difference is immense.  She is like a daughter to us and we have had a lovely morning together.  Yes I have stayed here this morning with good reason.

I need to show that we are  married couple who remain very close.  It has never been down the pub or anywhere else for me.  In some ways we are like a couple of Siamese Twins joined at the hip.  We enjoy being together and don’t really need the company of others.  So going out as soon as a carer arrives has not helped at all: it has now stopped.  We are in this together.   We will continue  our journey with dementia close together: that is how we have always done things.