The good news: I a managed to get some more sleep following the early morning incident.  The even better news: it took place in the marital bed.  That was good for both of us, as we soon became a closely married couple again.  M reached out for me with the toe of her left foot; something she has done for as long as I can remember.  I think it is her way of finding out if her husband is still beside her.  When I started coughing she offered to get me a drink.  Phew – she knew it was me  beside her in bed and not a monster.

Any reader of this thread will know by now that I have experienced the benefit of ‘Talking Therapy’.  I have praised the skills of P at our Medical Centre, so there is expertise at hand.  M has seen P but came away feeling he was trying to hypnotise her and she found that unsettling. Wait a minute my memory is faltering here: M did have counselling when she became hypersensitive to all sorts of aromas.  This time a young woman gave her support with some positive benefit.

So out of all this rambling something positive emerges.  That is the benefit of Blogging – it is a way of ordering your thoughts and deciding on what to do next.  The organisation where M got support is a short drive away.  You can self refer and I can walk in this morning and see if they offer talking therapy where dementia is a factor.  What a move forward if M could put some of the bad things that have happened in her life into perspective.  As she still has periods of lucidity it is possible that she could  she has been the victim, rather than the cause, of dreadful experiences in her life.   She might see that you can’t runaway from the past, or pretend it didn’t happen.  If I can understand that message surely M can – even when she is suffering from dementia.  Her brain may be damaged but she still has the capacity to put things into context.