I have sought advice about my wife taking to her bed today.  It is to let sleeping dogs lie and hope that her mind set changes soon.  Trying to shift her from being tired, or her leg hurting, would likely cause further distress for us both.

It is possible that the carer will be able to encourage her to become active tomorrow.  I have now decided on a change of plan and will go out shortly after she arrives, as I have one or two things that I need to get done.  When the eye brows get long it is time to get a hair cut and I need to return the alarm to CareLink.  I simply feel it is too risky to go out and leave M in bed at the moment.  If she awoke and found she was alone in the house then anything could happen.

It is never easy to get respite as a carer, because personnel are simply not available and finances are a hurdle that has to be overcome.  So I have to see my wife taking to her bed as an opportunity to have some respite.  I can have a bit of time to myself as she dozes and rests her leg.  When you are on call 24/7 you need to take every opportunity that comes along to have a break.