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Dementia: Admiral Nurses = Compassion and Action

Dementia UK homepageI realise I am very fortunate that we have Admiral Nurses in this area.  When I discussed changes in Maureen’s presentation with our social worker last week she advised me to seek more support from Mel my Admiral Nurse. We have chatted this morning on the phone and I know that Mel will guide Maureen’s referral to the Memory Service to the Home Treatment Team.

Admiral Nurses are a very important part of my coping strategy.  I could not have coped with the challenges of dementia without the support of their services.  Admiral Nurses = compassion and action: it saddens me that they are not available to all Care Partners.

Dementia: A Change of Heart on Valentine’s Day

Maureen went upstairs while I was following the Sky Blues on my Lap Top yesterday afternoon.  When the full-time whistle went I found her asleep in bed.  As she slept peacefully I drafted the two paragraphs that follow:

After a great deal of thought I have decided to let Valentine’s Day pass without a mention. I think it would be chancy to make a fuss of Maureen today, as this would only remind her how poor her memory is.  Despite all sorts of efforts Maureen has little idea any longer of; day, date or time.   My approach to life is to try to make every day special by following Kate Swaffer’s advice: ‘To live every day as if it is your last’.

If things go well today I may well let my 70th birthday, in 9 days time, pass us by.   Celebrating birthdays is hardly a priority as we travel on this hazardous journey:  minimising distress has to remain our prime focus.

We were both awake at 4am this morning and I mentioned it was Valentine’s Day, completely going against my earlier thoughts.  I’m glad I did as I can now add a romantic theme to the day.  We will search out old cards as we always do, and have them on display.  I have even chanced my arm and mentioned my forthcoming birthday.  Maureen is back in the land of nod now.  She may well have forgotten our plans for today when she wakes later.  We hope top wander along to the Sunday Market and find a second- hand L P that has resonanace on this special day. It’s very likely she won’t be sure who I am when I take her her first cup of tea of the day.  In fact I would put money on her asking me: ‘if I’m going to work today’: that’s a home banker!

Last week I decided that Saturday would be my day for showing gratitude. Pondering over Valentine’s Day meant that I almost forgot a new dimension for this Blog.  I want to concentrate on the NHS this week, as we both have so much to be grateful for from the Health Service.  

On Wednesday I travelled across to Hull to see Andrew an osteopath.  I am so grateful that Clee Medical Centre utilise the Pain Management Service.  On Friday I confirmed that Andrew’s assessment has been sent to our Medical Centre.  I know that by Monday morning I will be able to speak to a GP, and set in motion the next stage of investigation for the problems I’m having with my left shoulder. I have also confirmed that my recent blood tests have showed no abnormalities.  I’m very grateful that our Medical Centre is efficient and supportive of patients.

I’m very grateful for staff at the local Branch of Lloyds pharmacy for the support they continue to give to us.  Mel my Admiral Nurse was on holiday last week so late on Friday afternoon I wandered around the corner for advice, and support at Lloyds.  I didn’t realise how demanding I’d been until Liz had to let me out as I had stayed beyond closing time.  I’m very grateful to Yvonna for her support and owe her, Liz, and Rosemary an apology for extending there working hours.

In a week when some Health Service staff have been in the headlines for taking industrial action it is important to show my gratitude to NHS staff for ongoing support to us on this journey.

 

Dementia: Impermanence On Display

‘Impermanence on display – the wild garlic is beginning to transform the woodland floor into a lush green carpet’.  This quote, and photograph, has been been shared on Facebook by Kelsang Dorde of the Madhyamaka Kadampa Buddhist Centre near Pocklington.

I hope to return to the Centre and spend time meditating in the company of  Dorde, and his fellow Buddhists,  very soon.

Dementia: Saturday’s Sprinkle Of Gratitude (Week 1)

 

From today I have decided to copy an idea from a fellow Blogger and use her theme of ‘Sprinkling Gratitude’ as the focus for Saturday’s posts.   

Life is never easy when dementia is calling the shots.  There are many days when I am consumed with having this unwanted visitor in our lives.  I look at Maureen as she struggles to complete the most basic tasks, and wonder where my highly intelligent wife has gone.  It would be easy to be consumed by feeling sorry for ourselves, and spiral downwards into self-pity.  Then I remember all the things we need to be grateful for in the last few days:

  • To our social worker who returned from holiday on Monday, and within an hour arranged a day’s respite so I can visit my daughter in London.  Also for her sterling work in securing, and processing, our Support Package so sensitively..
  • To our carers who provide excellent support, and share their  knowledge of dementia.
  • To Dr Munjal who gave excellent support, and advice, on Maureen’s presentation.
  • To the Pain Management Clinic who have given me helpful advice, and treatment to address the discomfort in the rotator cuff in my left shoulder.
  • To my Admiral Nurse who Emailed me with helpful suggestions to deal with Maureen’s current concerns.
  • To my sister and her husband who are coming to visit at the week-end.
  • To family members who are in regular contact to check on our well-being.
  • To neighbours who are being extremely supportive, and responding to requests for assistance.
  • To Maureen’s Aunty Clarice who shared her grief over her husband’s passing so thoughtfuly with Maureen.
  • To our mechanic who serviced our car, and carried out repairs so it passed the MOT.
  • To fellow bloggers who continue to post supportive comments, and helpful advice.
  • To Jennifer whose Blog has reminded me to show gratitude with this wondeful video clip:

 

I’m sure I could go on: dementia is a great challenge in our lives but there are many things that we are grateful for as we travel on this journey.

 

Dementia: Understanding Sensory Clues

I have often sang the praises of Teepa Snow on this blog, and I want to spend time this weekend staying close to Maureen and thinking about her presentaion from the perspective of this article:

Dementia and Sensory Cues: Reading the 5 Senses to Understand People with Dementia
A Clinical Pearl by Teepa Snow, MS, OTR/L, FAOTA

Over the last ten years, I have done a lot of research, direct care, and education in dementia. I have learned a great deal about how people living with dementia navigate their world when challenged by the effects of a changing brain. The sensory system – what we see, hear, feel, smell, and taste – continuously takes in, processes, and uses data to help us understand and interact with the world. The challenges you might be experiencing with dementia patients are often a breakdown in the sensory system. So how can we help? Below, you will find a few lessons I’ve learned about observing the “cues” available to us that can improve our work as professional Care Partners.

Notice and Acknowledge

The first and most important step is to notice and acknowledge. If you take the time to observe, you can often discover the abilities a person living with dementia is actually working with at any given moment. If we understand more fully what someone can do, we can choose to support and care for them in a way that meets their needs. This begins with observations, not assumptions about what is happening.

Look for Sensory Cues

All human beings give clues and information about their ability through their interaction with others and the environment. Take an inventory for yourself by honestly observing and respecting how your patients are relating to the world through the five senses.

Visual cues

Observe: What is a person focused on? What do they see that might be different from what you are able to see?

“Visual cues” are a great tool. Vision is the preferred way for human beings to receive information. We like to see. Over time, dementia affects the brain’s occipital lobe impacting a person’s visual field and depth perception. As a result, a person literally may not know you are sitting next to them. They can’t see you, even though you can see them. If you are aware of this, you can move yourself into a person’s visual field before attempting to communicate or care for them.

Auditory cues

Observe: What do they respond to when you speak? Do they respond at all? A lack of response can also be a “cue” about ability in a particular moment.

Do they hear you? Did they actually process what you said? Are they giving you a response that suggests they understood? What is happening in their body that might tell you? Set your client and yourself up for success and look for a “cue” from them to confirm that what you think transpired actually did.

Consider other “cues” that may be helpful. What needs might someone be attempting to meet in their behavior? What are they saying or communicating with their actions?

Dementia affects all 5 senses

It’s important to understand and be aware that over time all 5 senses will change for a person living with dementia: visual abilities, auditory processing and comprehension ability (and please don’t confuse this with the hearing of sound as these are two different things), feeling ability (including touch sensation and the ability associated with motor skills), and the ability to smell and taste.

Everything changes experientially for a person living with dementia and this impacts their behavior, communication, and relationship with others. If we truly understand and are willing to observe their abilities and stretch ourselves by looking at what’s happening through the lens of curiosity, we can further understand and choose to support and care for others in ways that make more sense. These changes in perspective will improve relationships, set realistic goals for Care Partner interactions, and give the person living with dementia a greater sense of personal dignity and worth about their life.

Dementia: Sleeping Beauty Needs Her Rest

Maureen has now been in bed for fifteen hours.  I enticed her to have a nap alongside me, late yesterday afternoon, as I knew she needed to doze after a very busy day:  Sleeping Beauty has earned her rest.

As her mouth soreness and catarrh was ‘driving her mad’ she went to see her G P yesterday morning.  As always, Dr Munjal was extremely supportive, and gave her a number of options to resolve her difficulties.  He understands, very well, her intolerance to all sorts of medication, and is always very wary of introducing more tablets to her daily regime.  The good news from the consultation was that her blood pressure is well under control.

Maureen was very pleased with the outcome of her consultation: particularly the news on her blood pressure.   Seeing that she was in good spirits I pushed my luck to see if she could get her hair trimmed.  She responded postively to my suggestion, and luck was on our side as Mark squeezed her into his busy schedule.

Mark is one of the many examples of the ‘dementia friendly’ nature of Cleethorpes.   Lots of people in our neighbourhood, and beyond, are very supportive to us as we continue on this journey.  I could fill the page with examples of those who ‘go the extra mile’ to help us day after day.  While Maureen was in Mark’s chair I popped up St Peter’s Avenue to thank Specsavers for their recent assistance.  Lucy seemed delighted with the news that Maureen was getting used to her new glasses, after the uncertainty that had arisen when she first tried them on.

When I made it back to ‘Hairsmiths’ Maureen was sitting in the window looking a picture.  In a short space of time Mark had made her look like a model again – I kid you not!

As always when you have had a good sheering it takes you a while to get used to a shorter mop, and surely enough Maureen struggled with having a cold neck for a while.  Maureen spent quite a time in front of the mirror on our return home, checking on Mark’s work with a degree of satisfaction.

The remainder of the afternoon passed in a normal fashion: the chef at work and his assistant tidying up the debris.  As the afternoon was drawing to a close I realised that I had to encourage Maureen to rest after a busy day.  With a bit of persuasion I managed to get her to lie on the bed with me for a while, and that is where Sleeping Beauty remains as I post this Blog.  To put a football slant on things: ‘the girl done well’.

Dementia: Good Vibrations and Neuroplasticity

I think there were lots of good things about yesterday, alongside my luck running in 

Maureen and I had a normal sort of day for any married couple.  I didn’t ‘hop off’ as soon as Gemma arrived, so we had breakfast together and then carried out some basic household tasks.  When we work alongside each other the ‘old team’ is back on the pitch, and things run smoothly.  I generally spot when Maureen needs prompting and make the necessary supportive moves.

Whilst I was preparing lunch Maureen and Gemma got on like a house on fire.  I could here them chatting away as I made a winter warming soup.   When Gemma left Maureen said she liked Gemma- always a bonus with any carer!

My lunch time soup went down a bomb and I got high praise from my regular booking.  We always have fun around meal times as Maureen scores my creations.  The afternoon was difficult for the Nottingham Forrest supporter and she sat out my celebrations of the Sky Blues slamming Gillingham 4-1.

When Maureen is left to her own devices she tends to tidy up all sorts of things.  Sometimes she packs to go home and fills the washing basket full of precious items.  On other occasions she moves stuff around.  As I listened to the match she was in the bedroom and announced later that she had been tidying up.

As I celebrated the Sky Blues moving to the top of the table Maureen joined in with the high spirits.  She sang and danced to Joe Brown giving it his all on our Cd player.  When the moment was right we practised a routine or two from our dancing classes: being careful of course not to burn the evening creations.  My regular customer had requested omlette and chips – so my moves took on a new dimension.  I don’t think I would have got a ‘Ten from Len’ as we strayed into the slow fox-trot!

Following our evening meal I suddenly realised that Maureen had been on the go all day.  This was the first time for ages that she hadn’t had a nap or two in the day.  I joined her in bed shortly after nine at the end of a good day all round.

Who knows what today will bring?  All we can strive for is more Good Vibrations.  

Well we are off to a good start this morning with Maureen down at 9 am, making a further cup of tea.  It’s bright but very cold outside.  Maureen is not keen on driving south to see relatives, so we will stay local today.

If the going is favourable I hope we are able to walk to the local shops.  I am pretty sure Maureen can remember the way by now, and it won’t be long before she has the confidence to make the trip alone.  This will be such progress after her circuitous walks around the local streets, and eventually finding her way back home.   Maureen continues to demonstrate that she still has the capacity to learn.  It just takes a little longer following stroke and patience is vital when your goal is neuroplasticity. 

 

Dementia: Super Saturday

 

There is only one way of summing up yesterday: ‘Super Saturday’.  They say your luck runs in threes and yesterday it did.

Gemma our carer arrived on the dot at 10 am and provided superb support throughout her stay.  When you consider it was only the second time she had been here her performance could only be described as outstanding. Following a brief chat in our dining room she blended in as if she had been part of the furniture and fittings for ages.

Gemma is extremely intuitive and realised that Maureen was puzzled by a new kid on the block.  She therefore played a good card by offering to ‘pop to the shops’.  On her return she played another ace by ironing some bedding.  Then she slipped into the lounge to have a cuppa and chat with Maureen.  I am pleased to welcome Gemma into our support team.

With Gemma in the house I managed to scan the Internet for more resources on dementia and discovered Improving Dementia Education and Awareness (IDEA)  at Nottingham University.  What could be better than somewhere that is close by , at a University where I have been a student, and located in Maureens birthplace?

Later in the day things got even better.  As an avid Coventry City supporter I listen to matches live on Sky Blue Player.  Yesterday we beat Gillingham 4-1 .  It isn’t very often that I wake up on Sunday morning when the Sky Blues are top of the league.

The only dampner on this morning is that I have been woken up early once again by leg pain.  I have to start looking after myself a little more.  Those morning routines of Tai Chi and meditation beckon!

 

 

 

Dementia: Organising Our Days

This post has been lifted from a helpful Web Site and edited slightly.  I intend to use it as a guideline for planning our days, as I encourage others to help us review how our journey is progressing.  It is particularly pertinent after a rather challenging week:

Organising Your Day

Remember to make time for yourself, or include the person with dementia in activities that you enjoy – for example, taking a daily walk.

A person with dementia will eventually need a caregiver’s assistance to organize the day. Structured and pleasant activities can often reduce agitation and improve mood. Planning activities for a person with dementia works best when you continually explore, experiment and adjust.

Before making a plan, consider:

  • The person’s likes, dislikes, strengths, abilities and interests
  • How the person used to structure his or her day
  • What times of day the person functions best
  • Ample time for meals, bathing and dressing
  • Regular times for waking up and going to bed (especially helpful if the person with dementia experiences sleep issues or sundowning)

Make sure to allow for flexibility within your daily routine for spontaneous activities.

As dementia progresses, the abilities of a person concerned will change. With creativity, flexibility and problem solving, you’ll be able to adapt your daily routine to support these changes.

Checklist of Daily Activities to Consider

  • Household chores
  • Mealtimes
  • Personal care
  • Creative activities (music, art, crafts)
  • Intellectual (reading, puzzles)
  • Physical
  • Social
  • Spiritual

When thinking about how to organize the day, consider:

  • What activities work best? Which don’t? Why? (Keep in mind that the success of an activity can vary from day-to-day.)
  • Are there times when there is too much going on or too little to do?
  • Are spontaneous activities enjoyable and easily completed?

Don’t be concerned about filling every minute with an activity. The person with dementia needs a balance of activity and rest, and may need more frequent breaks and varied tasks.

Read more: http://www.alz.org/care/dementia-creating-a-plan.asp#ixzz3qh6gPwps

 

Dementia: Kay is More Than Ok!

I nearly made a silly mistake on Tuesday when Maureen was having such a difficult day.  As Gail our normal carer was on holiday I decided that a new face in the house wouldn’t help, so I phoned up the Agency and cancelled the call.  Later in the day,when I was on my knees from relentless challenge I asked for the call to be reinstated.

When Kay turned up shortly before 10am  I intercepted her on our drive.  I quickly marked her card on my ‘cunning plan’ for the day.  I explained that things had been difficult on Tuesday, and mood lifting was the order of the day.

Kay played a blinder throughout the morning.  She went along with the ‘lesson plan’ and even moved my aspirations to a higher level.  Within minutes of being here her rapport with Maureen was exceptional.  It helped that she had been here a while ago and she knew how to play Maureen.

Kay had two things in her favour that gave her a head start on other carers.  She is a grandmother and her maturity was a welcome relief for Maureen.  Kay is also a ‘Meggie’, a local, who went to the same Primary School in Cleethorpes as Maureen.  Once I left them too it they got on like a house on fire.

I got it right on two fronts yesterday morning.  Firstly, I went ahead with the call: much needed company after Tuesday!.  Secondly, I stayed around to set the scene, and popped in an out whilst catching up on some domestic tasks.  I have to thank Mel my new Admiral Nurse for the ‘staying here bit’.  As Mel said to me the first time we met: ‘I wouldn’t leave my cat with someone I didn’t know’.  Thanks for that one Mel – it helped to keep me on the straight and narrow yesterday!