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About It's My Time Now

I am a retired adult educator. My wife had a stroke in February 2014 and developed mixed dementia. I was her Care Partner until she passed in October 2025. This Blog has told the story of life as a Care Partner and now focuses on the aftermath of dementia.

My Pinkie is Free

Great news at last: my Pinkie on my left hand is no longer curled over. I’m just left with my middle and index finger now bent over like a claw. It happened by accident. I didn’t force it: honestly,

I decided to cut open a glove for my left hand so my thumb and index finger were being kept warm. As I was riding along on my mobility scooter, my Pinkie straightened. That is the first time in three days that I’ve now got only two fingers bent over. With luck it is possible that the other two might straighten out before the end of the day. I just have to wait patiently, not force things, and hope for the best.

No ‘Red Flags’

It has taken me a while to understand that there are no Red Flags associated with the problems with my left hand. I can only use the thumb and my index finger on that hand hand. I’ve found this worrying and am now resisting forcing the fingers open, following advice from a number of quarters.

I’ve wasted a lot of time in the last few days with conversations with 111, a pharmacist, and staff in A&E at Grimsby Hospital. I now have to be patient and sort out an appointment with a doctor at my Practice on Monday, where hopefully I will get the injection that could well reduce the pain and help me to straighten out my fingers.

In the meantime I still have my right hand and, with adjustment, can complete most tasks.. I have been assessed with a hearing deficit and hearing aids will be with me before Christmas. But one of the things I do need to do is to learn patience and listen to what people are saying to me. I’ve not only wasted my time and the time of medical staff but I’ve also wasted around £50 in taxi fayres.

I hope this is a lesson for life and in fuiture I will listen carefully and act accordingly.

Home Early

I have had to come home a few days early from the Buddhist Center in Pocklington

The problems with my left hand have intensified. I took local advice from 111 and a local pharmacist and decided that the only solution was to come home.

This morning I will attempt to refer myself back to the Consultant who looked at my hand a few months ago. He made it clear that if things got worse I would need to come back to him. He said that the only options then would be an injection or surgery.

Trigger finger has plagued me for a number of months now. I’ve been waking up with my left hand in a claw-like state. My little finger to my middle finger have been bent over. Unfortunately, I have made the mistake of straightening them myself, rather than seeking immediate medical advice. I’ll be on the phone to the Orthopedic Department at Grimsby Hospital as soon as they’re open for business this morning.

It’s unfortunate that I’ve had to come home from the Buddhist Center early. I was looking forward to the Post-Festival Retreat that would have started this morning. My time there has been well spent. I have renewed contact with some old friends and got to know some new residents.

The period away from home and my Campaign to end the Abuse and Neglect of residents in Care Homes have been helpful. I have chatted to several people about My Campaign. Although some of them have encouraged me to accept that I’ve made a significant amount of progress, I have now decided that my bottom line is to attempt to get the owner of Sussex House Care Home into Court. He needs to answer for the Abuse and Neglect that has taken place at a Care Home that he owns

This will not necessarily be a straightforward process but I will be resilient. I will never forget what I saw in that dreadful place. I want to ensure that he has to answer for the Abuse and Neglect that I saw and endured. I am optimistic that the Local Authority has intervened to ensure that Susssex House is now fit purpose and that the Abuse and Neglect of Residents is prohibited.

Day Two Of My Location Based Reset

I managed to reduce the pain in my knees by using a Magnesium Joint Spray. I will join water based classes next week to strengthen the muscle groups around my knees.

I rose far too early to complete my draft claim against Sussex House Care Home.

I am being very careful over my diet to attempt to reduce inflamation.