As Monday, and my trip to Coventry nears, it is time to ‘put my money where my mouth is’.  I need to have the courage of my convictions and support Maureen in having the care, if any, she wants in my absence.  Anything else would be hypocritical, and a step down the slippery slope of Prescribed Disengagement.   All I have to decide is when to raise the issue of my trip to Coventry, as too much notice only causes distress.

I need to chat to Maureen about going to see mum as soon as possible.   If she suggests accompanying me, I have to try to make that happen   If she doesn’t feel up to travelling south I have to make sure she has the support she feels she needs.  We mustn’t give Maureen the message that she can’t cope on her own: because she can. The most important thing about any arrangements is that Maureen feels in control of whatever is put in place while I’m not on the scene: along with her safety and welfare of course.