You will gather from this Blog that watching and waiting for decline is not my approach to dementia.  I always think it is worth trying something different.  The forward plan at the moment is to stay in when carers are here, to address the: ‘he can’t wait to get away syndrome’.  Saying I was tired last week and taking myself off to visit family has led my wife to ask me if she is: ‘too much trouble’.  None of this is helpful and it is far from a manipulative wife at work trying to control a wayward husband.

I think it would help us both to see the presence of carer in a new light..  We have to welcome them as visitors to the house.  With no immediate family here this place can seem like a house rather than a home.  Girl Monday (and Friday) is like a daughter to us and we should see her as such.  It is possible that she is all the help we need at the moment:  Girl Wednesday could be placed on standby.

Our next tentative steps need to be on getting out more.  We are going to have a day trip here today and join fellow holidaymakers enjoying the sea side. I am hoping that having a day off from household chores, and gardening, will wet out appetite for travelling a little further than down the road.  We both fancy a trip to Nottingham visiting family and seeing the sites.  I think that we have decided that Trent Bridge Bridge is off limits at £70 for the day, particularly with  Bradman and Laker  no longer on the team sheets.